Updated: Sep 9
Let's begin with the most asked questions that little girls ask their mothers at least once in their childhood," Why don't I have your surname?", "Why does papa get to be a part of my name and you don't?", "Why do teachers call out for 5 strong 'boys' to carry chairs in the class? ", "Mumma, why did you change your name after marriage and papa didn't?".
Are these the questions that young girls need to be asking? I'd be lying if I said I hadn't asked the exact same questions to my mother. This thought first came to my mind when I realized one of my classmates in 4th grade had her father's as well as her mother's name in her name. I was perplexed to my core as to why my name is Deshika Lokesh and not Deshika Hema Lokesh. After all, this woman birthed me. She willingly decided to go through all those horrid changes to have me. she went through the trouble of carrying me for 9 months and she doesn't get to be a part of my name?
Who decided that only the father's name should be a part of the child's name? Even though the mother does all the work she doesn't get credit for it and it is absolutely outrageous. My question is, why haven't any of us questioned this practice? I truly believe it's time change to change all these practices before the next generation thinks that women don't deserve their respect. Feminism isn't about 'hating men' it's about 'loving women'. These days girls are ashamed to call themselves a feminist and it's not necessarily their fault, society shuns them if they dare speak up. It is considered preposterous for women to have an opinion, it is laughed upon if women are vocal and voice their concerns. Why though?
I have heard a girl comment about 'not being like other girls. Is she trying to imply that she is okay with being treated without respect? Is she okay being disregarded? I guess we'll never know. It's high time women start fighting for what's theirs and what they deserve. It's time they are not silenced for speaking their mind.
Remember, Feminists aren't anti-men. We're pro-human.